The Blue Book
PCMK is a More Light Church and a member of the Covenant Network of Presbyterians, welcoming people of all sexual orientations. We seek to end the ignorance, silence and fear regarding this issue. Our mission is to educate our members and the larger community through information and outreach.
"What We Wish We Had Known"
Its purpose is to help families and congregations heal broken relationships and affirm the differences that make us human together. It is intended for those who know very little about the subject, as well as those whose families and personal lives have been deeply affected by misunderstanding.
The subject is considered in four aspects: Science, Psychology, Sociology and Theology. A complete bibliography is found at the end of the work.
Browse through the online book, choosing the topics that interest you most, at least at the present time.
Because of the fear and loneliness around the subject of sexual orientation, our church has produced a helpful and healing resource we call "The Blue Book." There are no mystical meanings here, just a reference to the hard copy version, which has a plain blue cover.
The complete title is, "What We Wish We Had Known --- a Resource to Help End the Silence."
If you want to order hard copies of the book, simply e-mail our church through this website. Don't forget to provide necessary information, such as how many copies, shipping address, zip code, etc. The books are produced on a not-for-profit basis, and cost $3.00 each
A complete Spanish translation of The Blue Book ("El Libro Azul") is also available in its entirety as an Internet resource.
A Russian translation is now available:
If you like, let us know how you plan to use the booklet: if it's for public education or if it will be helpful to parents or siblings or close friends who want to enlarge their understanding.
The Adobe Acrobat reader program is required to view the Blue Book.
You can download the Adobe reader, free of charge, by clicking on this link.
It is compatible for the following platforms: Windows 95, Windows 98, Windows ME, Windows NT and Windows 2000. The download size is 5.62 Megabytes.
Comments from our Readers
Over the last 14 years: more than 21,000 hard copies of the resource have been requested and distributed across the nation. We invite you to share The Blue Book link with others who may find it helpful.
Here are a few comments sent to us by our readers:
"Thank you for sending our parents' group 10 copies of your booklet. An earlier copy helped prevent a teenage suicide and has helped us heal family relationships."
"The BB is just splendid! I'll be ordering more copies after a little bit. The language is just wonderful - so complete, empathetic, and not "in one's face". Appreciation to your church for it!"
"I gave a copy to my mother. I'm so glad she agreed to read it and it moved her to apologize to our gay son for the unkind things she has said to him, not knowing. That meant the world to him - and to me."
"This book is absolutely treasured by PFLAG members and is distributed as widely as possible. Thank you for this most important ministry!"
"I'm delighted someone has done this. I'm sending your church website to several friends who are having a difficult time with my coming out. They care, but are terribly misinformed, which is causing some pain in our relationships.
God's richest blessings on your congregation…"
"I think therapists might use The Blue Book even more effectively than the pastors and the newspaper editor I have shared it with. I am very hopeful. As always. In spite of way too much pain. With the love of God to all of you,"
"I'm a chaplain. I recently became aware of your church resource. I have given a copy to a young person, who in despair and self-hatred, attempted to harm himself. I want you to know that he received a good deal of comfort and hope from reading it.
"I'm 57 years old and a Methodist and a grandfather. People in my church - in which I am active - assume I am a straight person and make upsetting antigay remarks in my presence. I will use the booklet to start telling them about myself. It's time."
"I'm in high school and live in rural Indiana. Thanks. The local radio show had a call-in program about homosexuality. I called in and read some parts of The Blue Book aloud over the air. I hope this is all right with you."
"The Blue Book is wonderful to me!! I am praying to make it known to just the right people. Thank you for sending it before I could know if I could send you any "offering". My mom has seen how happy and excited I am about it, but she thinks she does not need to read it - but she really does if she wants to be more at peace about me - and to be more helpful to others in our church. I talked to the pastor but he seems at the same place as Mom. I hope my sister will look at it now. Pray. I know how urgent a change in the status quo is for many folks. "God, please help!" - And He is! Sending Grace to you all who put together The Blue Book!"
"Please send me 2 more Blue Books. It helped me a lot. I enjoyed it. I'm hoping it will help my parents, sisters and friends. God bless you all."
"I would like to order 25 copies of The Blue Book for our Baptist church. I bought 40 at a conference last summer and they've all been used. It's wonderful."
"Thank you for making copies available at cost. For those of us on Social Security Disability as our only income, it is wonderful! With sincere appreciation…."
"I especially appreciate the footnotes and bibliography. I am using the booklet in an affirming diversity class for beginning teachers at a Christian College and also at my United Methodist Church. We have a support class there for family members of gay people who want to know more or to just talk."
"I read your book on my computer and I was wondering how I could get 100 copies by next week."
"I found the book powerful and eye opening and valuable. I plan to give a copy to my mother. I have yet to come out to my father and hope to better equip my mother. It's been a year now since I told her, but I want her to know more. Thank you. "
"My grown daughter and I were always close, but now I feel that she is drifting away. I think she may be gay and is afraid to tell me. She is fearful of being rejected by the family …. I think she is right to be worried. I feel like I'm losing her. I want to do something, but I'm afraid of doing the wrong thing. Perhaps the booklet will help."
"Thanks for the supply of books for the conference. They went like hotcakes!"
"A great big thank you to the congregation in Mt. Kisco. I have given this booklet to my family, friends and my parish priest. It is truly Christ's work that you do."